The Marriage Sacrament
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Book: Marriage - The Sublime Sacrament
A sacrament helps the transformation from being mundane to be human and to become a divine human. Among such sacraments, Marriage Sacrament is considered by far the most important sacrament.
Marriage Sacrament is conceived as a means of purification, transformation, and of attaining optimum balance of male-female, female-male energies. The sacrament is a means to sanctify the person. Sacrament gives the related code of conduct, which when followed enables humans to transform themselves.
Marriage is between a male and female energy. Male and female are but the two aspects of one being. Male is positive, distributing, outgoing, and expansive. Female is negative, receptive, containing, and collective. Together they constitute a unit of existence. They are equals and are not dominant over each other. Nature is filled with these two energies. They are interrelating, ever engaged and never separated. One does not exist without the other. They are at their optimum when they are balanced between them.
Marriage as a sacrament aims at balancing of the energies of the male and the female in such a manner that their life expresses love in all their dimensions. When a couple finds their union at all levels, namely on the physical, emotional, mental, intellectual, and blissful level, they become one. In the sense one receives the other into him, into those areas where fulfilment is needed. The strength of the one fills up the deficiencies of the other and vice versa.
Marriage must be seen as convergence of divergent forces. Ability to accept divergence, an effort to include divergence causes expansion of comprehension. Marriage is meant for it. Family is the natural school in which one is expected to learn the law of acceptance, namely to accept the view of the family members. Through the law of acceptance one will find their convergence.
Compatibility is the basis for living together. If there is no compatibility at all, matchmaking and marrying results in a failure. Compatibility is evaluated on the basis of the psychological suitabilities, and not on the basis of the outer appearances and expressions. There is the inner person, the sum total of the psychic energy of oneself. These inner qualities are generally latent and hidden and cannot be measured by the surficial expressions. They can be known through one’s attitude towards life, one’s pursuits in life, and one’s goals in life. If the goals, pursuits, and attitudes are totally divergent, a man and a woman cannot make a couple to live and to move together. For example, if one holds noble pursuits to serve humanity in one way or the other, and if the other holds mundane pursuits, there is a vast attitudinal difference. They cannot proceed together in life and build a beautiful family. It is for this reason that matchmaking has to happen on the basis of psychical and psychological compatibility, more than the superficial compatibilities.
In every marriage, there is no such thing as one hundred percent compatibility. Certain incompatibilities do exist, and they need to be worked out with patience and understanding. Marriage is by far the most significant relation which one embarks upon once in a lifetime, and hence a balanced approach is essential - rather than an emotional approach. Emotions fade away in a couple of years and one faces hard realities thereafter. Therefore, considered thoughts should be preferred to emotions. Wisdom should prevail over instinct and emotions.
The Sacrament and its Meaning
Marriage Sacrament commences with the invocation of the sound OM. OM restores order; disorder disappears with this invocation. The sacred word OM is an ardent call and an invitation in general to all the Devas. Once OM is invoked, and fire is ignited, the Devas are present all around, though invisible.
In a Marriage Sacrament, there are three chief players. One is called Brahma, the priest who performs the Marriage Sacrament. He represents Jupiter. The bridegroom is the Martian energy. The bride is the Venusian energy. Mars and Venus are opposing and divergent energies, which are put to convergence through Jupiter. Thus, marriage is a triangular sacrament of Jupiter, Mars, and Venus. The presence of Jupiter enables the convergence, and through convergence eventually progeny is conceived. The progeny represents Mercury. Such is the planetary understanding of the Marriage Sacrament.
The bridegroom is the cosmic person and the bride is the cosmic nature, and their consummation results in the cosmic creation. For this reason, Marriage Sacrament is considered as the grandest and the holiest of sacraments. Each time a Marriage Sacrament is conducted, it bestows peace in the surroundings.
The priest utters forth, saying that the Lord is witness to this marriage through the five elements that surround the ambience. The five elements are the perceptible witnesses of the imperceptible Lord and the Devas. The bride and the bridegroom must be aware of their act of marriage, which is happening in such eminent presence. Thereafter, the priest proceeds further with the sacrament.
He bestows the bride on the bridegroom for the following purposes:
- to realise the splendour of life in togetherness
- to realise the law of righteousness
- to experience life in all its dimensions
- to perpetuate the family chain on the planet by begetting virtuous children
Marriage is seen as a sacrament and living married life is seen as a means to experience immortality through communion of the male-female energy. The male energy supports the female and the female energy supports the male. Consequently, each contributes to the life of the other. Happy married life contributes to longevity. This is a secret hidden in nature. Since the male and female principles are inter-supportive, one supports the other energetically by their mere presence.